COPING WITH GRIEF & LOSS

Therapy for
Grief/Loss

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PROCESSING GRIEF

COUNSELLING FOR GRIEF/LOSS IN OTTAWA

Unfortunately, just about everyone will experience loss at some point in their life – it’s inevitable and unfortunately inescapable for most. Grief is the natural reaction to any form of loss, and whether the loss is a pet, a friend, a family member, or another life circumstance, it often hits us harder than we expect.

When grieving, you can experience a whole host of emotions from deep sadness to abnormal anger, and sometimes even guilt. With every circumstance of loss, the significance of the relationship and the personality of the griever will strongly influence what kind of emotions may surface. If negative feeling persist, the pain of grief can begin to affect your physical and mental health, making it hard to eat, sleep, and meet other basic needs.

At Unique Peace Counselling, we are here to offer caring and constructive therapy to help you understand your emotions, cope with your feelings, and t grieve in your own way. The subject of death or loss can involve a difficult conversation, but can also help with healing and growth. If you are experiencing grief from a recent loss, let us help you through it if you have been feeling lost.

GRIEF AND NEURODIVERGENCY

NEURODIVERGENCY AND THE
GRIEVING PROCESS

Like in other areas of life, being an ADHD and/or Autistic person can contribute to challenges when processing grief. For example, hypersensitivities and hyposensitivities can lead to confusion and unexpected responses to grief. Additionally, these confusions may also lead to masking behaviours, where we edit our emotional responses to grief in order to blend in with others. 

Masking and grieving often go together, leading at times to increased stress and negative emotional responses. Additionally, we may also face pressures from friends and family to cope with grief in certain ways that don’t work for our needs. Working with a neurodivergent-informed therapist can help to normalize these challenges and may help in processing feelings associated with grief.

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GRIEF TAKES ON MANY FORMS

Different Kinds of Loss

For some neurodivergent-individuals, grief can take on many forms that neurotypicals may find it difficult to relate to. At times, a neurodivergent person may have an intense grief reaction to things that brough sensory comfort to them in a hostile world, such as a pet, a favourite object, a favourite hobby, etc. At times, these responses can even be more intense then when a neurodivergent-person was grieving friends and family, leading to confusion from family and support persons. 

At Unique Peace Counselling, we understand just how important these comforting pets, objects and hobbies can be. Often, these things can provide more comfort in our lives then some people, leading to intense distress. By creating a safe space and by normalizing the loss, we hope to create an environment that can allow you to unmask and to share the depth of your loss.

Frequently Asked Questions

Grief is a strong and often overwhelming emotion that we express when dealing with a loss. The grieving process has similarities between different people but each person’s experience will be unique to them.

Unfortunately, there is no universal answer. Every grieving process is unique and is a reflection of one’s personality and the significance of the loss. Therapy may help in processing emotions associated with loss.

It’s important to note that not everybody has the same coping process, but there are similarities in the stages that people experience in response to a loss. The 5 stages of grief model summarize the grieving process in five main stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Individuals may experience some, or all of these, in different orders and intensities.

More often than not, grief is described as “an intense loss of connection and meaning”. Additional feelings may include: shock, numbness, sadness and disbelief.

  • Every person’s grieving journey will look different from another’s, as we all interpret loss differently. Additionally, we all can experience different intensities with grief, leading to further differentiating experiences. 
 

Grief can bring on a variety of adverse physical symptoms. The feelings of stress can increase inflammation and can cause or accelerate headaches, stiffness, and joint pain. Prolonged grief can also diminish the effectiveness of your immune system and increase your blood pressure.

Overcome Mental & Emotional Health Challenges with
Kalon Roy, RP

Committed to Your Unique Needs

I am Kalon Roy, a registered psychotherapist since 2017. I work with individuals, couples, and families to address various mental and emotional health challenges. My approach focuses on understanding your unique situation rather than relying solely on a diagnosis. Through empathy and personalized treatment plans, I aim to tackle the roots of your problems and help you reach your goals.
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